When I tell people to delete anon hate, to not publish it, it’s not me saying “ignore it and it’ll stop; don’t fight back.” It is 100% petty and spiteful. Honestly, I can’t think of anything better than the person who sent the hate obsessively checking your blog and refreshing and refreshing, waiting for you to reply, and getting increasingly frustrated when the ask they so masterfully crafted never pops up & you just keep posting cute pictures of your pets and talking about how nice your day was.
We all love urban fantasy but we have to contend with the fact that if monsters were real, some of them would be normies. Your werewolf boyfriend posts on LinkedIn. The tentacled horror you’ve been thirsting after is a Disney adult.
You did it, you made unimaginable horror within man-made comprehension.
One of the niche hobbies I have is insulator collecting. Insulators are the glass/ceramic parts that keep electrical lines from shorting out:
They come in all sorts of colors and shapes, some rare, some common:
They can be the size of a fist, or long chains:
The hobby is dominated by retired lineworkers. But it deserves so much more attention! They are often referred to as “crown jewels of the wire”. Anyway, this is my niche infodump. Thanks for reading!
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Aita for telling my ex boyfriend I don’t miss him?
Tw for talk of sexual activity, emotional neglect
For context, I (19f) broke up with my boyfriend (18m) three months ago. We were going strong for a day short of nine months, but he was going to meet my family and my anxiety got in the way so I panicked and self sabotaged the best relationship I ever had. I know now I was a coward and I hurt him deeply, we’d even planned on attending the same university and starting a bookstore together
He really was the best thing to ever happen to me. He was unconditionally supportive of me when I deal with my emotionally manipulative home life, always told me how pretty I am, got me gifts and would binge my favorite shows so I could infodump to him. He’d been seriously neglected and borderline abused by his toxic ex boyfriend (an ex-mutual friend) but he always went above and beyond to make sure he wasn’t projecting onto me and our relationship. I was head over heels
But I broke up with him the day before our nine-month milestone because I was so sure that he would break my heart and leave me just like everyone else in my life had (and a week before we were to fly cross-country to meet my parents. I went alone.) And he told me in the many conversations we’ve had since then that it ruined his self-esteem and made him question his own self worth if he couldn’t even convince me that he was worth keeping around
And he said that he had planned to ask me to marry him when we got out of university in a couple years. He was so devastated over the phone, but I stuck with my decision to not date anyone during college. I needed to focus on myself and my own mental health… which I haven’t been good about doing (looking at my various online dating profiles)
While we were together, all of my friends were in their horny college phases and hooking up with anything that moved and they’d leave me out of friend activities because I was with my boyfriend. It made me feel alone and isolated and I’d cry to my boyfriend about it and only realize later how awful it was to complain to my significant other about how badly I wanted to be single. Yet, he never complained. I was awful to him
We’ve recently become friends again and we’ve started having casual sex. He has an almost unnaturally low libido compared to my super high one so when he calls me, I’m always at his front door. He’s always so sweet and caring, even after we’ve broken up, and he always checks in on me in the following days to make sure I’m okay. He’s undoubtedly my best friend and my romantic feelings for him have all pretty much died
Last night I spent the night at his place. As we were drifting off, I heard him mumble that he misses me and wrote it off as his sleepy pillow talk. We’d talked in length about never getting back together because of how I hurt him and I agreed it was for the best. This morning, he asked me if hed said anything strange and I didn’t bring it up until he kept nagging me and I told him what he’d said.
He started apologizing profusely and I said I wasn’t upset, because I’m not. I asked him if he meant it and he said he didn’t know. I said it’s fine, he can keep the answer to himself when he figured it out, I didn’t miss him. I ate the breakfast he made and left for work
Now I’m sitting at work and feeling really bad about it. I want to still be his friend and still sleep with him for as long as he’ll have me, but I also feel like I shut him down and hurt him again. I don’t know if my decision to put my foot down was the right one
Throwaway blog because I can’t fucking believe this
Hi I’m the ex boyfriend. OP told me she sent an ask to this blog and I can’t believe she posted this much about us and I’m kinda embarrassed that the internet now knows this much about me, but oh well, nothing I haven’t ranted to my discord server about lmao
Everything she’s said is true, about how I planned to marry her and planned to transfer to her uni and how she broke up with me the day before our nine months anniversary
But there are a lot of details that are left out. She broke up with me over a phone call as I was leaving a work meeting (one i was leaving early because she had texted me that she needed to talk), it was her idea to start being fbw and how two weeks after she left me, she texted me asking for advice on a tinder date that she was going on and was eventually stood up (lmao)
And yeah, I was devastated. I loved her and she loved me back, but she was too scared to power through her own insecurities despite me being right there to help her. My mental health spiraled and I had to go back to therapy, which felt like a walk of shame because of how I’d sworn that I wouldn’t go back after how my ex-bf would use me for sex and a shoulder to cry about his issues on and I was so sure that I was healthy enough to get back into another serious relationship
And yeah, OP and I are still friends. She’s not my best friend by any means, but we still hang out together and we’re fwb, but I’ve been trying to cut myself off from that. I don’t remember ever saying I missed her, but I believe I could’ve mumbled it as I was drifting off. The way she told me about it wasn’t harsh and I agree with a lot of the comment telling me to get out. I’m trying. She’s deffo gonna see this throwaway and yk what?
OP, I really think you need to go to therapy. You know more about me than anyone else in the world and I like to think it’s the same the other way, but I haven’t felt romantic feelings for you since the first conversation we’ve had post-breakup. I’m sad I didn’t get to go to indianapolis with you to meet your parents, but my trip I took with my mom to six flags was way better
I hope one day OP can love herself as much as I loved her. She may not be sticking to her no-dating rule, but it’s gonna take me a while to get back on my feet. I’m young, I’m still a bit naive, I’m gonna live my life. Sorry OP didn’t want to be part of it
thinking - as often - about that one ancient post that’s like “can you have French braids if your world doesn’t have a France” and there’s a lot of reductio ad absurdum you can do - I said a character was “fighting down panic,” and technically panic is etymologically related to the god Pan, so I “shouldn’t” use it, and I shouldn’t talk about silhouettes (derived from Étienne de Silhouette, French finance minister during the Seven Years War), but once you’re delving into things that could be on a fun etymolgy facts listicle, I don’t think it’s really meaningful -
I could give my perennial advice (it varies from situation to situation, and everyone’s anachronism line is different, so just use your judgement), but I do actually have something more specific here:
just rephrase it.
yeah, they don’t have French braids, but that lady’s hair was “braided closely around her head in a crown.” They don’t have chicken milanese, but they have “chicken, beat thin and breaded, then fried in oil. she squeezed lemon onto the cutlet, and its bright scent filled the air.”
there’s nothing wrong with the shorthand of French braids, but the unpacked description of what a French braid actually is isn’t that much longer, doesn’t bring in a specific thing from our world, and conveys more information.
In a statement to The Post, a spokesperson for NBCUniversal claimed the tree work is simply an annual ritual at this time of year. “We understand that the safety tree trimming of the Ficus trees we did on Barham Blvd. has created unintended challenges for demonstrators, that was not our intention. In partnership with licensed arborists, we have pruned these trees annually at this time of year to ensure that the canopies are light ahead of the high wind season,” they wrote. “We support the WGA and SAG’s right to demonstrate and are working to provide some shade coverage. We continue to openly communicate with the labor leaders on-site to work together during this time.”
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If those trees were pollarded annually, the cut areas would NOT look like that. There would be big knobs of old growth at the trimming sites. Not seeing any of that here. The way those trees were topped (not pollarded, which is a very careful process that has to begin when the tree is immature) is excellent way to kill them due to loss of hydration, open sites to infection and parasitism during the best time of year for both, lack of nutrition due to so little greenery and new budding growth being left, sunburn and other exposure damage, and a myriad of other possibilities. Plus, if they were topped annually, they would not have the lovely drooping branches seen in the other picture but would have tons of vertical suckers instead.
This is what an annually pollarded mature tree should look like:
If this was done by the city, the public works arborists should be protesting in front of city hall and screaming their heads off right now. I’m not hearing about that, so… Tree law!
The Studios: *speak*
Botanists and other Tree Experts:
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He mentions later in the thread that not only do they not trim the trees annually, they’re trimmed at best once every 18 years. Supposed to be every five, and only in dormancy, which even my layman’s ass knows about tree trimming.
And yes, Universal can probably eat the fine. But it’s gonna be a whopper even if the trees survive (which is as mentioned kinda unlikely), California is a triple damage state for tree law, and it may increase dramatically if there were nesting birds in the trees.
All this to be a Captain Planet filler villain to some writers. And yes, it’s currently just the writers officially picketing there; SAG-AFTRA recommended against it for petty bullshit like this and the suddenly necessary sidewalk construction.
I asked my dad— a retired arborist—about TREE LAW and he just kinda blinked and said (i paraphrase because Dad Tangents, amirite?):
“Worst and best case I ever saw was a guy who was caught in the act of cutting down a C&C tree by two Department of Urban Forestry supervisors while they were randomly driving around on a Saturday. Not only did he have to deal with the cops showing up and months of paperwork and bureaucracy, but he also had to pay the fines AND cover the cost of the tree removal + stumping + buying a new tree + planting the new tree + wages for the regular crew plus the extra workers they needed to get the jobs done. That tree ended up costing him upwards of $35K, and that was over 20 years ago.”
So yeah, respect Tree Law or pay out the bootyhole.
wow i sure wonder 🤔🤔 what the new layouts supposed to look like 🤔🤔🤔🤔 its a mystery
Don’t forget y’all that there’s a much better way for us to let Tumblr know what we think about specific changes, rather than @ ing staff or wip, and it’s sending in a support ticket and choosing feedback!
Tumblr reverted some of the asinine app decisions they made after a concerted feedback effort! So make sure to use this form! It’s what it’s for, but it’s not well advertised!
Reblogging again because I got an anon last week whining cause they did this to one of my unfinished series and the bot killed Y/N so now they want ME to give them a happy ending. Like. No. Suffer, bitch.
AI is the death of creativity. Anyone who does this to my stories and is stupid enough to brag about it will be blocked from ever reading my work again, AND I’ll let everyone on tumblr know that you do this. We’ll see how much fic you get to enjoy when every author blocks you forever.
Fic is a gift. I’ve said it before. Don’t shit all over your lovingly handcrafted gifts, m'kay? This should be fucking obvious, but apparently for some of you it’s not.
THIS GOES FOR AI ART AS WELL.
I know this doesn’t really apply to my content because I make one off headcannons, but DO NOT PUT OTHER AUTHORS/ARTISTS WORKS INTO AI! If you do you’ll be blocked from my page. It’s incredibly disrespectful to the people who work so hard to make amazing content. Don’t do it.
If I didn’t have anticipatory anxiety I’d be unstoppable. But half of why I procrastinate on a task sometimes is purely bc I’m so scared of how much energy I would expend into doing it successfully. It is so much simpler to just lie down and do nothing
I’m taking away the word empathy from the NTs until they discover it isn’t a synonym for “giving a shit about people”
In an attempt to be less of a dick:
empathy is a brain function that some people (including me!) struggle with.
There are three types! Affective empathy, which is basically the ability to read other people’s emotions, Somatic empathy, the classic “I feel sad because you’re sad” and Cognitive empathy, which is the ability to accurately guess what people are thinking and feeling.
If you use empathy to mean “caring about other people” when you could use words like compassion, you’re implying a large subsection of the population (including people you may know) are heartless and bad simply because of the way they were born!
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